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Dr.
Jane Nelsen received her Ed.D in Educational Psychology from the University of
San Francisco and is a licensed Marriage, Family and Child Therapist.
She is the author and co-author of several books: Positive Discipline, Raising Self-Reliant Children in a Self-Indulgent World, Positive Discipline A-Z, Positive Discipline the First Three Years, Positive Discipline for Preschoolers, Positive Discipline for Teenagers, Positive Discipline for Single Parents, Positive Discipline in the Classroom, Positive Discipline: A Teacher’s A-Z Guide, Positive Time Out and Over 50 Ways to Avoid Power Struggles in Homes and Classrooms.
For the past 30 years, the Gallup Poll has shown that discipline is the number one concern of parents and teachers.
How effective discipline methods can eliminate spoiled children, bullying,
school violence, power struggles, lack of cooperation, back-talk, and all forms
of disrespect
Jane shares her knowledge in lectures and workshops throughout the world.
PARENTS LEARN HOW TO AVOID:
- Morning hassles
- Chore hassles
- Bedtime hassles
- Mealtime hassles
- Homework hassles
- Sibling fights
TEACHERS LEARN HOW TO AVOID:
The role of policeperson, judge, jury and executioner
Classroom and playground discipline problems
Bullying
CHILDREN LEARN
- Self-discipline
- Responsibility
- Problem-solving skills
- Responsibility
- Cooperation
- Valuable social and life skills for good character
To arrange for an interview e-mail jane@positivediscipline.com For a review copy of one of the books, contact: brad@empoweringpeople.com
Expanded Questions on Positive Discipline
- Let's start with the big question. What about spanking?
a. Why do parents spank?
b. What are the long-term results of spanking?
- But the Bible says, "Spare the rod and spoil the child."
a. How was the rod used in the Bible?
- What about people who say, "I was spanked, and I turned out okay."
- You say you don't believe in any form of punishment. Does that mean you think
it is okay for children to do whatever they want?
a. Permissiveness is just as damaging (if not more) long-term than punishment.
b. When raised permissively, children grow up thinking, "I can do whatever I want. Love means you are supposed to cater to me."
- If not punishment, what do you advocate?
a. There are hundreds of non-punitive methods. We'll cover as many as time allows. If you listeners what to call in and ask about a specific behavior, I will give them several suggestions.
- You have 5 criteria for effective discipline. What are they?
- Why do children misbehave in the first place?
a. There is a belief behind every behavior. Most parents don't understand this.
b. Deal with the belief behind the behavior, instead of the behavior – and the behavior will diminish.
- When you say no punishment, do you really mean "NO punishment"? What about
taking away privileges? What about time out?
a. We could spend hours on this subject. Time out and withdrawal of privileges are the two most popular discipline methods used today, and I believe both are ineffective and usually achieve just the opposite of what parents want.
b. Logical consequence is a term parents use to try to disguise punishment. Still, a punishment by any other name is still a punishment.
- 9. But time out doesn't seem very punitive.
a. It doesn't have to be, but it usually is. How would you feel and how would you react if you came home from work and your husband/wife said, "I have told you a thousand times to pick up your socks, and you still didn't do it this morning. You go to time out and think about what you did. And, don't come out until I say so."
b. I have written a whole book on "Positive Time Out and Over 50 Ways to avoid power struggles in homes and classrooms. Let me tell you how positive time out works.
- You have made a bold statement. You think that positive discipline in homes and schools could prevent shootings bullying. How?